Avoiding Stress In Your Life

I once had a boyfriend.  We got reacquainted at a class reunion.  Our relationship centered around going out, having a few drinks, watching sporting events or just hanging out at sports bars with friends from high school.  It was all fun and games at first.

Soon, I was over the whole party scene.  That was what I did when I was young.  Then I realized that to this person the party was his life.  Everything about him centered around the next drink.

I became painfully aware that I had NOT chosen wisely.

I see it all around me.  People who start a relationship which is based on something other than mutual respect.  Common goals.  Communication.  Same likes and dislikes.  When everything is said and done, maybe those people do not have anything in common except the party.

I remember saying to this man.  Most people go out and have a good time, stay up late, maybe one or two times a year.  You do it every single day.  That's when I figured out we had nothing in common.

When you decide to date someone you should ask yourself.  Is this someone who I can see myself marrying?  Have we been raised with similar values?  Do we have a fun side and a serious side?

Never settle in relationships.  You deserve to be adored by someone.  And you should adore that someone back.  You should never get into a relationship with someone who is abusive emotionally, verbally or physically.  You should choose someone with a good work ethic.  You should choose someone with a team player mentality.  You should definitely choose someone who doesn't have substance issues.  You should choose someone who is mature.

I like what my cousin did.  After her husband passed her first date with a man was a church service and then dinner.  Wow!!  Let's establish straight up that your relationship with God is important.  Now that date has turned into a marriage.

Yes, we all have issues.  To be alive is to have issues.  But you do not have to add stress to your life by being with someone who does not have your best interest at heart.

Choose right to begin with and you will save yourself a lot of stress.  And remember, stress kills.